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Nelson & Booth
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Can I date after I file for divorce?

You can and many people do. Our advice? Don't. You are married.

Although this is not the nineteenth century and although Kansas is a "no-fault" state, your spouse may try to use your actions against you. You and your spouse may have agreed long ago that your marriage is at an end. You may assume that the end of your loving relationship means that you can (and should) move on and start your healing process by starting to meet new people to form new relationships. But the process of separation and divorce takes many twists and turns.

Anger and jealousy are strong sets of emotion and they are some of the significant factors that lead to nasty and expensive divorce proceedings. The courts will probably not pay any attention to allegations by one spouse that the other has gone out with someone else – whether that is alleged to have occurred before or after the divorce was filed. However, the judge is not the person who will raise the issue nor the person whose wrath causes problems.

If you are already involved with another person or cannot resist dating, prepare yourself for the problems that might arise. If you are involved in a relationship or if your spouse suspects you are involved or dating another person, please tell us. It is always better for us to find out from you that you are involved or are dating so that we can help you through the minefield than it is for us to find out about those relationships during delicate negotiations when we could have easily dealt with it in a less critical atmosphere.

We understand you need others to talk with. We suggest you talk with your existing network of friends and seek help through a good psychologist or social worker who is qualified in grief and divorce counseling.

NELSON & BOOTH is a law firm engaged exclusively in a family law practice emphasizing complex domestic relations actions, including divorce and determination of parentage, property division, child custody, parenting time, spousal and child support and representation of parents in cases of international child abduction.

The attorneys at NELSON & BOOTH are licensed to practice only in the
states of Kansas or Missouri.

E-mail: Ronald W. Nelson or Joseph W. Booth

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Last updated 11/15/2005 9:38 AM